In the quest to find love, breakups are inevitable. We are not meant to be with every person we date, but that does not make it any easier to say goodbye.
Breakups hurt, no doubt about that. If anything, these are some of the worst times a person can go through. Here are 7 ways to help you get over a break-up:
Cry it out
It’s ok to cry as much as you want to, even in waves if you must. Let the pain out and go with it for now. In fact, the sooner you can release and let go of those emotions the quicker you can move on.
Separate yourself from your ex.
People who think they can stay friends with their exes and still move on are pretty much setting themselves up for a rude awakening. When you stay attached to someone, you can’t walk away to better things.
Don’t try to forget, rather try to forgive.
Sometimes breakups leave you left hurt and broken. If you spend the time after your break-up trying to forget, you will be disappointed, instead try to forgive. Forgiving someone is a way to free yourself from harboring resentment.
Have some me-time and Practice self-care.
Sometimes, after a long-term relationship, our identity is so wrapped up in what you were when you were together that who you are as an individual takes a back seat. After a break-up, it’s important to invest in yourself. Discover who you are, what you enjoy, and where you want to grow. Practicing self-care will help you get your identity back. Treat yourself well. You deserve it!
Don’t take it personally.
Some people think/assume that if they looked different, were more laid back and spontaneous, didn’t work so much, etc. that their relationship would have lasted. This simply isn’t true. Your worth is not defined by a successful relationship.
Write it out.
Writing your feelings on paper, or on your notes app, or your computer can be quite therapeutic and a way of healing for you.
Do not go back.
Going back is not the answer to heartbreak. There was a reason it didn’t work out and the things you hoped would change while you were in the relationship will not be changed by going back.
Find the lesson and Learn to let go.
Although difficult, there is a reason for every experience you had with your previous relationship, and you can grow from those lessons.