Imagine surviving the Great Depression, the Second World War, the Civil Rights Movement, and ultimately seeing the first African-American president of the USA. They even received a letter of praise from President Obama in 2010!
The Guinness World Record for the longest marriage was broken by Zelmyra and Herbert Fisher. Having been wed since May 13, 1924. With 84 years of marriage, they previously broke the record.
Given the environment we now live in, this seems like an impossible task. Most marriages break up even before they start! According to research, first marriages end in divorce at a rate of 41%, second marriages at a rate of 60%, and third marriages at a rate of 73%. So how did this couple manage to break the world record by remaining together for so long? What is their trick?
They were questioned regarding their strategies for enduring difficult times and handling marital crisis. Here are some short responses from the couple who actually remained together till “death did them apart.”
How did you come to the conclusion that you could live your life together? Did you experience any fear?
Every day that went by made our bond stronger and more secure. Never once was divorce a possibility or even an idea.
How did you know your spouse was the one you were meant to be with?
Before being married, we were great friends because we shared a childhood. While a buddy is for life, our marriage lasted forever.
. After being married for more than 80 years, is there anything you would do differently?
We wouldn’t alter anything in the least. Our marriage is not a secret; we simply did what was necessary for our family and ourselves. (I suppose the solution is there.
. What words of wisdom would you provide to someone who is still hoping to find Mr. Right?
Zelmyra: Mine was only a few steps away! Keep the faith because he is never too far away; when you encounter him, you will know for sure.
What qualities make a good spouse the most important?
Zelmyra: A diligent worker and responsible parent. The 1920s were challenging, but Herbert wanted the best for us and gave it to us. I wed a decent man.
Does practise make perfect in speaking? How can you keep your cool under pressure?
We converse more now that the kids are older. We can unwind together on the porch or in our rocking chairs.