Getting along seamlessly with your partner may not always mean you will get along with their family as well, at least not instantly. Given there are different family dynamics in different families and varying personalities, it may take some time before some family members fully embrace you into the family.
Here are some tips to help you get along better with them:
Try To Be Yourself
Being nervous and anxious is pretty much in a new environment, but if you’re hanging out with your partner’s family, the easiest and most effective ways to get along better with them is by simply being yourself.
Take An Interest In Them
Take an interest in genuinely getting to know them better. Ask questions of things you don’t know about them, in fact such conversations may help you understand why they act, feel or behave in a certain way. This may in turn open the possibility for finding common ground on something.
Focus On The Positives
If are currently having issues with your partner’s family, try to look for their good qualities. If you try to keep your focus on the things you like about your partner’s family. it can help you get along.”
Be sure to get the conversations flowing with topics you have in common. Ask about memories of your partner growing up, that will definitely open up a series of unending stories to bond over.
Offer To Help
Your partner’s family will see that you care when you offer to help out even with the little things. Showing how you’re a team member who cares about the whole family and not just your partner, might just have them warming up to you in no time.
Talk With Your Partner
If you feel like your partner’s family isn’t being accepting to you or they don’t like you it’s worth having a conversation with your partner. Find out if this has happened to other partners before you and maybe get a better understanding of what is causing the rift and how to solve it.
Practice Good Manners
Remember to be on your best behavior while still being yourself. Also, when visiting your partner’s parents or any family member, be sure to carry along a gift like flowers or some wine. A little gift is not only a gracious gesture, it also shows you appreciate spending time with the family.